Ten Mindset Shifts that can ignite your growth and help turn your life around:
Instead of ‘I’ve failed again’ try, ‘I will rise again’
Be grateful for any money you earn As opposed to ‘it’s not enough’ or ‘I want to earn more’ see your earning/income as ‘I am grateful to earn money’ or ‘I am grateful to have the capacity to go out and earn an income’.
In place of ‘I’m too settled into this career path and couldn’t possibly start my own business’ try ‘I can start a business at any stage of life because I am capable and resilient’ or ‘I have the skills, knowledge and experience at my age to start any career I desire’.
If there’s something you desire to learn but you tell yourself you can’t because of your gender, ethnicity, nationality ect then flip it around and imagine if you were the first person you know who could do X, imagine all those other minorities who ‘believed’ they couldn’t but YOU inspired them to believe they could. Imagine being that role model you needed.
If you’re not in the time or financial position to do something you desire now, don’t right off ever doing that thing and telling yourself, ‘I can’t afford it or I don’t have time for it so I can’t do it. Try thinking, ‘I can do this, it’ll just take longer to reach my result than the average person, but I can still do it and STILL achieve x’. Just because something you desire doesn’t follow the ‘normal’ path, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t even consider carving out your path.
Instead of ‘I really don’t like x person’ try ‘x person has taught me about myself by showing me what I am willing to tolerate from someone’.
Rather than saying to yourself ‘I should’ve changed jobs back in 2023 because I could’ve been in x position by now’ try saying ‘I did the best I could in 2023 with the information I had at the time’. You may know more now but regretting decisions in the past won’t support the future you are building. Look forwards.
If you feel unsupported by your partner, friends and/or family in some capacity - I’d try thinking about why you’re looking for support externally and start with championing yourself. Go internal and be your biggest cheerleader, supporter and all round die hard fan. Belief in you, your ability and dreams starts with you.
If you’re preventing or withholding negative feedback from someone because you think it’ll hurt their feelings - try thinking ‘how long am I willing to be treated like this for’ or ‘what if someone was treating your son or daughter this way and they asked you for advice, how would you advise them to deal with such things’ - anything can be communicated by being kind, respectful and assertive. You can’t control their response to what you say but you can control your response and what you say.
If you’re in the midst of something difficult that is challenging you, instead of thinking ‘I can’t finish this’ imagine you’re younger self watching on the side lines as a third person, how would you want to show up for them, what strengths can you suddenly find within yourself when demonstrating to your younger self, that anything you dreamt about is possible in this life!
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